Dear Overwhelmed Parent: You Deserve Rest Too

Dear Overwhelmed Parent: You Deserve Rest Too

I can feel the weight of your exhaustion through your words. The constant cleaning, working, managing responsibilities, and carrying the mental load for your family—it’s too much for one person to bear. And yet, you’ve been bearing it for years because that’s what we do when we feel like we have no other choice.

But let me tell you this: you deserve rest too.

1. You Are Not Failing

I know it feels like you’re stuck in an endless cycle of doing everything for everyone else while wondering, “What about me?”

You’re not failing—you’re overburdened. No one is meant to juggle work, a household, and the emotional labor of family life all at once without a break. The fact that you’ve been managing as much as you have is proof of your incredible strength.

2. It’s Okay to Step Back

It’s easy to feel like you have to solve every problem and meet every need. But stepping back and allowing others to take on responsibilities is not a sign of failure—it’s an act of strength.

Letting go is not giving up.

• If you have older children, this might mean letting them learn independence and face the natural consequences of their choices.
• If you have a partner, it might mean having an honest conversation about sharing the mental and physical load.
• And if you have family or friends who offer support, it’s okay to lean on them.

3. How to Find Rest Amid the Chaos

I know it feels impossible to take a break. You’ve built a life where you are the glue that holds everything together. But here are a few small steps to carve out the rest you desperately need:

Lean on Your Support System

If you have family or friends who are willing to help, let them. Whether it’s watching the kids, cooking a meal, or just letting you vent—accept their support without guilt.

Set Boundaries with Love

Let your family know what you need. Be honest that it’s not sustainable for you to carry everything alone. This isn’t about blame; it’s about working together to create balance.

Prioritise Yourself, Even in Small Ways

Take moments for yourself where you can. A quiet walk, sitting in the car for five minutes, or even stepping outside for fresh air can make a difference. Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate; it can be as simple as making time for something you enjoy.

Release the Pressure of Perfection

It’s okay if the house isn’t spotless or if some tasks don’t get done. The world won’t fall apart if you let go of some expectations.

4. Your Needs Matter Too

It’s easy to feel like your needs are last on the list. But you cannot pour from an empty cup. Giving yourself rest and care is not selfish—it’s necessary.

Your family will benefit far more from a version of you who feels supported and replenished than one who’s running on fumes.

5. You’re Strong, But You’re Not Invincible

The strength you’ve shown in juggling so much is incredible, but even the strongest people need help. You’re not weak for saying, “I can’t do this alone anymore.” You’re human.

Take it one step at a time. Start small. And know that there are others who see you, hear you, and understand what you’re going through.

With love and understanding,

Someone Who’s Been There